R.E.S.T.O.R.E.

Healthy Relationships

Domestic violence and batterer intervention referrals, delivered as a clinical program rather than a punishment.

26 weeks · 1.5 hrs weeklyProgram length
or 6-week intensive · 5 hrsIntensive option
$725Participant fee
Live secure videoDelivery

Who this program is for

Referral type

Individuals referred by a court after a domestic violence charge, or as a condition of probation, diversion, or a protective order.

Many people in these cases have been hurt as well as harmful. Some were abused earlier in life. Some are in relationships where both partners have been violent. When a program treats them as nothing but an offender, they shut down and stop participating. This program holds participants fully accountable without writing them off, which is what keeps them engaged long enough to change.

What R.E.S.T.O.R.E. stands for

The model participants work through

RRecognize unhealthy thoughts, behaviors, triggers, and emotional patterns
EEvaluate how these patterns affect your relationships, decisions, and well-being
SSlow Down and create space between emotions and reactions
TTake Responsibility for your choices, behaviors, and their impact
OOpen Yourself to Change by challenging old beliefs
RReplace unhealthy habits with healthier coping and communication skills
EEmpower Yourself by practicing growth one choice at a time

Change is not a single event. It is a process, and lasting growth comes from repeated choices practiced consistently over time.

The work

What participants build

Every session is grounded in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, targeting the connection between thought, emotion, and behavior. Because the approach is skill-based, participants leave with strategies they keep using rather than compliance that ends with the court order.

  1. Recognizing the thinking patterns that precede escalation, and interrupting them before behavior follows
  2. Identifying the difference between a feeling, a thought, and a choice
  3. Communication and conflict skills that hold up under pressure rather than in the calm of a classroom
  4. Understanding the effect of the behavior on partners, children, and the wider household
  5. Accountability that does not depend on the court order remaining in place

Session topics

Twenty-six weeks, week by week

Each week builds on the one before it. Participants work from the Healthy Relationships Workbook, with structured exercises, reflection prompts, and CBT-based strategies in every session.

1Orientation, Accountability, and Beginning the R.E.S.T.O.R.E. Journey
2Building New Habits Through the Four R’s
3My R.E.S.T.O.R.E. Growth Plan and Managing Stress
4Changing How You Think and Reconstructing the Story
5Understanding the Ripple Effect and Developing Empathy
6Taking Responsibility and Removing Barriers to Change
7Understanding the Personal Cost of My Choices and Creating a Safe World
8Releasing Shame, Building Healthy Pride, and Letting Go of Resentment
9Understanding My Story and Managing Rage
10Building Healthy Relationships and Understanding the Impact of Trauma
11Mindfulness and Healthy Conflict Resolution
12Healthy Intimacy, Boundaries, and Choosing Cooperation
13Positive Parenting, Jealousy, and Building Emotional Security
14Reflection, Values Clarification, and My R.E.S.T.O.R.E. Commitment
15Protecting Progress and Maintaining Lasting Change
16Moving from Awareness to Action
17Changing How You Think and Understanding Trust Patterns
18Understanding My Choices and Strengthening Stress Management
19Understanding Yourself, Loving Yourself, and Recognizing Red Flags
20Releasing Resentment and Creating Safety for Yourself and Others
21Caring for Yourself While Managing Emotional Struggles
22Emotional Intelligence and Choosing Not to Escalate
23Taking Care of Yourself and Discovering Your Strengths
24Understanding Love, Respect, and Healthy Relationship Rights
25Negotiation, Compromise, and Maintaining Long-Term Growth
26Helpful and Unhelpful Relationship Thinking Patterns, Relapse Prevention, and Moving Forward

Tools taught across the program include the R.E.S.T.O.R.E. growth principles, the Four R’s, Fact versus Feelings, the S.C.R. communication method, HALT, mindfulness and grounding skills, and relapse prevention planning.

Fees and delivery

$725

Participant fee, all-inclusive

THE FEE COVERS
  • Assessment
  • Workbook
  • Weekly court reporting
  • Three free individual or family counseling sessions, during the program or within 30 days of completion
PAYMENT AND DELIVERY
  • Payment arrangements are available. The balance must be paid in full before the participant completes the group.
  • Live by secure video on a fixed weekly schedule
  • Male and female facilitator present in every group
  • No facility, staffing, or transportation burden for the referring court

There is no cost to the referring municipality. Program fees are paid by the participant, and payment arrangements can be made as long as the balance is paid before completion of the group.

Completion

How a participant finishes

A certificate of completion is issued only after a required final presentation in which the participant demonstrates mastery of the skills taught. Attendance alone does not complete the program.

Participants also receive three free individual or family counseling sessions, which may be used during the program or within 30 days of completion.

For referring courts

What the court receives

  • Weekly written progress reports for every participant
  • Prompt notification of absences, noncompliance, or discharge
  • Certificate of completion, issued only after a required final presentation demonstrating skill mastery
  • Direct communication with your referral officer, prosecutor, or judge, plus community service provider referrals when court-ordered

Why this program is called Healthy Relationships

The label sets the tone before the first session

A charge sheet phrase like “batterer intervention” tells a participant who they are before they have said a word. People who walk in feeling condemned tend to spend the first several weeks defending themselves instead of working, and some never stop.

In collaboration with Shelby County, RCS renamed the program Healthy Relationships so the title describes what participants are building rather than what brought them here. That matters most for participants who have been both victim and offender, where a condemning label makes early buy-in far harder to reach.

Since the change we have seen noticeably lower resistance and markedly stronger early engagement. Clinical content, program length, and court requirements are unchanged. Removing the stigma from the name does not lower the standard. It gets participants through the door willing to do the work, which is where every outcome starts.